Friday, March 20, 2009

Priorities

My priorities:
1. God. Have Him be my thoughts, my voice, my actions.
2. Stability. I pray my mother, brother, and I live in a safe place. I pray we have a stable income and car.
3. Education. Go to college. Set my life for the medical and/or science field.
4. Volunteer in a hospital for children, babies, or sick children; or, volunteer in an orphanage.
5. A "Forever Love. "

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Married for Life, Reflection on moments

"Sometimes emotional connection takes just a moment, yet it means so much. Even on the busiest of days, be sure to grab that moment." -Bill Morelan, Married for Life


"There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven" -Ecclesiastes 3:1

Anger

"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." -Proverbs 15:1

Marriage

"So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." -Matthew 19:6

Lost, Plans

'For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.' -Jeremiah 29:11

Honesty

"An honest answer is like a warm hug." -Proverbs 24:26 (The Message)
"An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips." -Proverbs 24:26 (NIV)

I couldn't decide which I like best. I'm leaning towards the first one. :)

Married for Life, Reflections on forgiveness

"Remember two things about love: "it is slow to become angry, and it holds no memory of grievances." -Bill Morelan, Married for Life

"Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." -Ephesians 4:32

Fruit of Life

"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." -Galatians 5:22-23

A Time for Everything

"He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end." - Ecclesiastes 3:11

Faithfullness

"Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful." -1 Corinthians 4:2

Trust

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6

Love

"Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart." -Proverbs 3:3

Love - Book

"You must take time to love the people God has put in your life..." -Karen Kingsbury, "Forever" (I think. From the Firstborn series.)

Fear

"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." -Isaiah 41:10
The boy and I broke up, two days ago-and it hit me as I crept into my room. It really happened. I wept and tried to pray; however, words cannot suffice or bring hope. I had to feel it, and stop denying what happened and how I felt. It really happened. It just happened. There's no denying that.

I let my guard down and fought how serious I felt towards him. I began having my doubts. Perhaps I scared him? Am I too much for him? Did he say the things he felt because he had a sense of obligation? etc.

"I need to talk to you," I said. "I need to tell you something too." Oh no, this doesn't sound like it is going to be easy. "Is it good or bad?" I felt uneasy by this point. "I want to look into your eyes and say it." Ok, it shouldn't be that bad, then. Right? Wait--is he doing the same thing? To keep myself from waiting, I decided to say it after moments of quiet and confusion.

"I think we need time apart."

I'm not going to go into the conversation as detailed as I like. What caught me off guard (in some knowing way) is that he was thinking the same thing.

It confused me.

One thing I dislike when people break up is the flatter card. It goes like this, "You're an amazing person, wonderful. I felt like I learned a lot from you." etc. Why say that, and dump the person whom is so wonderful and perfect? If it were true, breaking up would not happen. Saying that is an easy way out, from looking like a jerk.

If he did love me, meant what he said about me, would he think about breaking up? I felt played. I was played. I just felt stupid I fell for him. I started to regret opening my heart to him and giving him the second chance. When I gave him that second chance, he had a chance to show he deserved it.

What is my reason for our time apart?
I knew he is new to love. He is just figuring it out. I thought he needed to get his priorities straight because he seemed lost and confused. I wanted us together, however, I cannot handle how I felt and observed from him. I did not want to feel alone in love.

His reasons?
Too busy with school, family things, etc.

I have things going on with me too. Does that mean I don't want him in my life to share what we have?

His reasons do not make sense.
Did he fall out of love? Did he become uninterested? Does he have commitment issues? Those make sense, and those are something that can be worked out in time, if needed. Or, was it the baby scare? I told him the night before we broke up that when he said, "I'm not ready to have a baby," I felt my heart split. He would not be there for me if it were true? Is this how committed he is to me? I understood he was scared, so was I. What if it were true? What will he do? Will he stick around?

Perhaps I scared him. I know my love is too much for him. Perhaps he is better off without me in his life.

On the other hand, perhaps it's the opposite; perhaps it's me in all this.